Book Review: Help Yourself by Dave Pelzer

As a boy Dave Pelzer went through horrendous emotional and physical abuse from his mother. He was robbed of the childhood he was supposed to have. He survived and lived to tell his story in several books, one of them called Help Yourself, Celebrating the Rewards of Resilience and Gratitude. In this book he talks about how he worked through his issues that arose because of his unfortunate childhood and gives suggestions to the readers on how they can work out their own issues.

In the first part of the book called “Get Rid of the Garbage in Your Life” the author emphasizes the importance of getting rid, as soon as possible, of whatever is troubling the person — unresolved issues. Instead of becoming bitter while surviving the negative environment, Dave Pelzer learned to let go and made a choice not to hate but to forgive and help others do the same.

The second part of the book, “Know What You Want out of Your Life”, points out that the victim mentality will not get a person too far. The author gives direction on what to concentrate on to make things better as well as providing steps to take to make the impossible possible.

In the third part of the book called “Celebrate Who You are and What You Have” the author shows how what you say to yourself first thing in the morning affects how the rest of your day will go. He demonstrates the power of a positive attitude and gives suggestions on how to create your own positive environment. Throughout the book, at the end of each chapter, the author lists “help yourself” reminders.

All of us go through some pain and injustice, though perhaps not as severe as the pain and suffering young Dave Pelzer went through. Reading the horrible accounts of abuse in his life would make anybody feel grateful for the life they’ve been living. The resilience of this young boy to his circumstances can serve as an example. The power of his spirit and gratitude brought him to where he is right now — living a happy, fulfilled and productive life as an adult in spite of all odds. He shared his wisdom in this book so others can also have a great life in spite of their own negative circumstances.

North By Northwest Announces New Workshop – Self-Care Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Professionals

As a solopreneur or professional at the helm of a small team, there are a seemingly endless number of tasks that need to be ticked off a daily To Do List each day. The well-being of a manager can slowly fall further and further down that list of priorities.

Spending too many hours on a business venture – and not enough on a personal life and self-care – is the fast-track to burnout.

“It’s Not the Amount of Work We Do that Causes Burnout!” For many entrepreneurs, it’s not the workload that makes people fall off the health wagon. Instead, it’s the feelings that entrepreneurs have around their work – like the overwhelming feeling that they are never off duty; the harrowing guilt that comes up when they try to step away from their business; and the never-ending pressure to achieve and succeed – which becomes overwhelming and stressful.

Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Self-Care Bootcamp for Entrepreneurs was created to get professionals back on track.

In this four-module self-guided course – complete with an Action Plan clients can implement at the end of each module and exercise worksheets to help them define their own self-care plan.

– Start taking care of themselves: mind, body and spirit, so they can transform their life and business (and feel happier and more successful, too)

– Create a strong and healthy body, so they have the much-needed energy and stamina to grow a thriving business

– Nurture their emotional well-being and safeguard against emotional burnout by setting firm boundaries

Module 1: The Whole-Body Entrepreneur

– Why self-care keeps slipping from their grasp (and how to stop the slide) – so they can break their old habits for good and build a sustainable self-care routine.

– 7 signs of burnout they need to take seriously – and what to do about them

– 6 signs of stress – and how to permanently defuse it

– Why they are stuck in distraction (and how to get out) – because ditching those time drains will free them up to do the things they love

Module 2: A Strong & Healthy Body Makes Good Business Sense

– The dangerous health habits common to entrepreneurs and how to spot them – so they can kick them to the curb today

– The real reason why making time to be healthy never seems to work – and the simple hacks and strategies they can use to fix this

– How to identify their energy drains

– 6 tips and tricks for fitting self-care painlessly back into their everyday life – easy to adopt rituals and habits to help stop destructive practices and strengthen the well-being of their life and business

Module 3: Nurture Your Emotional Well-being

– 6 “emotional well-being” deal breakers-including what they are and how to handle them

– 6 surefire warning signs they may be running into a client from hell – including what to do when their client-to-be is both needy and nice

– 5 painless ways to ditch the energy vampires and complainers – it may be the kindest thing they do for both of them

– Why neglecting their boundaries has a direct effect on business decisions – and how to successfully change this habit

– How to be proactive in handling negative people and situations – and what they can do to help prevent it from happening

– How to create a Emotional Well-being Profile – and use it to strengthen their boundaries naturally and painlessly

Module 4: Creativity Comes from the Soul

– 10 ways to get over negative perceptions and insecurities – and how to start truly, deeply loving themselves

– 5 must-take steps necessary to make any major lifestyle change – including what they should make time for, why they don’t and how to change that, for good

– How to create their own Emotional Well-being Profile – and finally figure out what’s essential for them to maintain confidence, good health, and true happiness

This workshop will enable clients to:

– Get rid of past self-sabotaging habits that drain their energy

– Put a real, practical self-care routine into practice (and finally understand why it’s so hard to stick to one in the first place-so they will never “fall off” again)

– Set themselves up for a rich and fulfilling life and business where their needs are met (and so are the needs of their clients and customers)

– Be the successful, shining entrepreneurs or businesswoman they always wanted to be

Whatever a clients physical, emotional, and spiritual goals are, it’s all possible when they take this first step.

Check out their website for more information on their SelfCare Bootcamp and other workshops and planners:

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How Much Self-Care Is Too Much?

When my client asked me that I asked her, “are you able to keep up with your obligations and marketing initiatives?”

The answer was not only a yes, but…

It was a whopping, “I have more time in my schedule to get things done then I ever have!!!”

This is because she is clear on her three goals for this year.

That’s right three and only three. It doesn’t mean there aren’t a bunch of mini goals and benchmarks within each of the three bigger goals, BUT what this does allow her is a clear focused plan for her time AND energy. Translation, not taking on more than she needs to.

She still has time to serve her clients in a powerful way, spend the time with her family in a way that is important to her, AND practice copious amounts of self-care!!

Back to self-care…

She asked this question after undergoing two self-care treatments in one day.

The best part is after the second one, she came back to a message waiting for her from a new client wanting to work with her.

This has been after weeks of this happening. She adds in more of what she loves, is feeling happy and fulfilled – and not overwhelmed by a never ending to do list – and voilà, clients literally keep showing-up!!

This is it people.

This is how simple the law of attraction is. You think it and it shows up.

This client in particular has just pretty much tripled her business from where she was last year.

And the best part? It is not from DOING more.

Let me repeat.

This is not from DOING more.

This revenue increase is flowing far more easefully then last year at this time. She was working much harder to receive 1/3 of the business.

Who she is BE-ING has shifted.

This isn’t about adding in self-care because we think we should with there being a lot of “buzz” around it these days.

It’s because we truly are taking the time to tune into doing the things we love.

We are valuing ourselves.

This is self-love.

This is completely different energetically then doing it because we think we need to. One is a “should” but we’re secretly still running around ragged.

The other, is a mindful conscious loving decision, where we’ve stepped out of fear, and into trust, love and quite frankly abundance.

Per of the law of attraction, what we put out comes back.

When we value ourselves and do what we love, we create just that. More love and abundance.

People, clients and opportunities just “show-up”. Does it mean we don’t take inspired action though?

Heck no.

You’re willing to put yourself out there. You’re willing to be you. You’re willing to follow-up and you’re willing to reach out.

The funny thing though, is once you do the inner work and move through the discomfort of removing old paradigms and thought systems no longer serving you, these type of activities no longer feel uncomfortable. They feel inspired and exciting. You can’t wait to connect with new people you can help and serve.

Because you believe in yourself.

And that is what it’s all about <3 <3 <3