Bob Proctor – A Self-Help Professional

Born in 1935 as the middle child of a modest family in northern Ontario, Canada, Robert Proctor was not an outstanding youth. Born into a worldwide depression that only gave way for a Second World War, Bob (like many of his peers) just wasn’t interested in school. As a result, he didn’t do very well, eventually dropping out after just a few months of high school.

Even in the 1950s there were few lucrative career choices for high-school dropouts, so he soon joined the Canadian Navy for a four-year stint. After a mostly uneventful stint, he came home to Ontario, settling down in Toronto to work as a fire fighter. He has since described himself during this period as being “broke, sick and miserable.” So, when his friend Ray Stanford gave him a copy of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, he was ready for a change.

He quickly decided to put the ideas outlined in the book to use. The first thing he did was take a figure he wanted to make, write it down, concentrate on it and keep it in his pocket. The initial sum of $25,000 may seem modest by today’s standards, but in 1961, it was several times the average blue-collar wage in Toronto, even someone so lucky as to have a steady and lucrative position such as a city employee. To the protests of his brother fire fighters, he quit anyhow.

Shortly, he’d started up a janitorial company that specialized in cleaning offices. Just twelve months after that, he was the head of a nation-wide janitorial chain and had made several times his original goal. Within a few years, he was a millionaire. Clearly the book had some sort of effect. He felt compelled to share this success with others through sharing the secret he’d learned.

Bob was ready to learn more and he devoured all the books he could come across on the subject, many from the 19th century such as those by the proponents of the New Thought Movement. He continued to study and found a mentor in Earl Nightingale, creator of the gold record winning “The Strangest Secret,” and voice of over 7,000 motivational radio broadcasts.

A pioneer of the self-help movement that sprung up in the 1970s, Earl taught sales forces and housewives alike that “You become what you think,” since it occurred to him “like a bolt out of the blue,” while preparing an inspirational talk for insurance salesmen in 1958. Bob went to work with him as a content salesperson in Chicago, Illinois, and soon became Earl’s right hand man.

In the mid 1970’s Proctor decided to begin his career as a life-coach and continues, 30 years later, in that capacity. In the ensuing years, Bob has taught executives at scores of companies such as Prudential and Metropolitan Life as well as Malaysian Airlines.

He continued to seek new material to explain why some people were successful and some were not. Dr. C. Harry Roder of San Antonio’s Concept Therapy Institute, Eric Hoffer of The True Believer fame and Leland Von Syring are among those Bob made the acquaintance of during his travels to work with corporate clients. They gave Bob indispensable advice that he’s incorporated into his programs and seminars. Any time he noticed his life was going along much more smoothly than before, he sought out the nugget of wisdom and investigated it. The resulting program is, in essence, his life’s work.

Today, Bob Proctor presides over seminars worldwide and disseminates his message though several media companies he steers. Coaching Consulting Program is offered along with materials designed to educate users on human motivations that do or don’t lead to success. He continues to offer a twelve-month coaching program through his website that promises to be a rigorous and intensive series materials and conference calls.

He has written numerous books on the topics of getting what you want out of life and fulfilling goals since the 1960s including The Success Puzzle, The Winner’s Image, The Goal Achiever and his highly influential and best-selling, You Were Born Rich. Most recently he’s been featured on the phenomenally successful movie The Gift, as an interviewee and philosopher. With other experts from the film Bob has been conducting seminars to teach people how to use the power of thought to propel themselves into the powerful people they can become.

Bob claims to be spry as ever, in his early 70s, expressing sincere gratitude for his good fortune and abundance every day. He remains committed to the teaching of his system for attaining personal satisfaction.

Broken Heart First Aid: Self-Help for Those First Few Weeks

The person you hoped to spend your life with has left you, for whatever reason, and your heart is broken. Initially, that pain and heart-ache is unbearable and you don’t know how you’re going to get through the next minute, let alone the next day.

Obviously, you need to go through a grieving process for the lost relationship, and that will take time. However, you can help yourself through the first acute stages of pain and distress with these simple, natural remedies and healing exercises.

Crystal Healing

Take a piece of Rose Quartz or Rhodochrosite crystal. Cleanse it in running water, and then keep the crystal with you at all times. You can also hold the crystal and focus on its energy while breathing slowly for a few minutes. Mentally make a connection with the crystal, and ask its energy to interact with your own. The energies of these crystals resonate with the heart centre, and the pink colour has the energy of love. It will help to heal and nurture the energy of your Heart Chakra.

Bach Flower Remedies

Get yourself the following Bach Flower Remedies (available from any health-food store): Rescue Remedy, White Chestnut and Sweet Chestnut. Rescue Remedy helps with the shock and trauma, White Chestnut helps quieten the thoughts that go round and round your head, and Sweet Chestnut helps alleviate extreme anguish.

Add four drops of each remedy to 10ml of brandy or vinegar (choose vinegar if you are taking other medications) and then make the mixture up to about 30ml with water. Take four drops of the mixture four times a day, or more frequently if you feel distressed. The remedy is perfectly safe and you can take as much as you wish without ill effects. It does not need to be refrigerated.

If you feel extremely distressed, take four drops of undiluted Rescue Remedy directly on your tongue. Repeat this every fifteen minutes until you feel calmer.

Coral Colour Therapy

The colour energy which will help you most is coral; coral is a mixture of pink and yellow. In colour psychology, pink is the colour of unconditional love, and yellow is joy. The resulting coral colour is very special in colour healing. Contained within coral we have self-love, self-acceptance and self-respect. This colour makes us feel good about ourselves. It honours our sensitivity. It nurtures us, and it allows us to blossom. Whenever you are feeling vulnerable, devastated, dejected or rejected, the energy of coral is like being given a big hug. Use as much of this colour as you can, as it will be hugely supportive to you at this time: wear coral clothes and jewellery, find some coral-coloured bubble-bath, wrap yourself in a coral blanket, if you don’t like the colour, you can wear coral underwear!

This healing exercise is also very supportive. Sit or lie quietly, and imagine that you are completely surrounded by a soft coral-coloured light. Visualise the colour soaking through your skin, sinking into your muscles, your bones, and your blood. Imagine that you are breathing the coral energy deep into your lungs. Let the energy soak into your heart. Imagine it getting stronger and stronger with every in-breath. Feel your heart pumping the colour around your body. When you feel that the coral energy has filled every single cell of your body, imagine the energy cleansing the pain and heart-ache from you, making your cells clean and renewed.

Using these simple healing techniques will take the edge off the anguish of those first few days and weeks. It will also clear the energy signature of shock and trauma from your cellular memory. This is particularly important if you want to avoid the trauma sabotaging your life and relationships in the future.

As the shock wears off, you will move into the next stage of processing the loss, and will begin to regain your well-being. Remember that whatever the reason for your relationship breakup, you are worth looking after, and are deserving of being loved for who you are.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) – Change Your World! Self-Help For Fibromyalgia

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) may help Fibromyalgia symptoms. It is a self-help approach that assists patients in understanding the way we think and feel. It is said that NLP can be a helpful fibromyalgia treatment by helping the sufferer find freedom from underlying emotional issues that contribute to chronic pain and other symptoms. NLP is described as “the study of the structure of subjective experience”.

Neuro” refers to how the brain works. “Linguistic” is defined as how language interacts with the brain. The word “Programming” describes how we use this interaction to get the results we want for ourselves and others. NLP a blend of cognitive and behavioral science.

It is said that NLP can be used to help people with quitting smoking, weight loss, performance, confidence, anxiety, anger management, stress relief, chronic pain, addiction, phobias, negative self-perception, insomnia and depression.

The basic principle of NLP is that the words we use reflect our inner, subconscious perception of our problems. If we allow our negative perceptions and words to fester, the underlying problem will continue. These negative words and attitudes can actually become who we are – even if they are inaccurate. Reality is processed by our five senses and nervous system which translates into experience. Our experience is then given meaning by language and non-verbal communication.

Looking at premise behind NLP, that language and non-verbal communication gives meaning to our experience, it does make sense that if we are made aware of our own negative communication patterns, experience can be modified into more positive ways of thinking and communicating.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is designed to change unwanted behaviors and beliefs, to help us achieve personal acceptance and improve our lives. NLP systematically explores, illustrates, and teaches patterns of human perception and information processing, behavior, and communication. The goal is to help eliminate the things that block your abilities to function and strengthen those that help you achieve excellence and overall wellness.

Language & words have a powerful effect on altering perceptions. It is suggested that NLP offers a flexible approach which brings about positive, fast change in individuals, empowering them to adapt to an ever-shifting inner world. NLP shows us how to understand and model our own successes in a realistic way, so that we can reproduce them.

NLP experts say that positive self-talk is a must, no negatives. You do get what you focus on, so focus on what you want. Basically, its an attitude adjustment.

NLP is new to me and maybe to you as well. I have not experienced this therapy myself, but I feel it is important to present it as an option for FM and chronic pain. Since we are all so different when it comes to our pain perception, severity and emotional status, what might work for some, may not work for others. Discuss NLP with your healthcare provider to decide if NLP is worth a try.